Feelin' Kind of Friday!

I am writing this blog today on my back patio in Cary, NC in my shorts and tee shirt, no shoes and feelin' that awesome vibe that can only come on a Friday! The only bummer right now is that I'm watching my dog take a crap in the yard and I'm hoping it all goes well because I don't want to have to get the scissors out and cut dog dookie out of her hair today...oh good...it's all good (I got side-tracked watching her...but fear not...no need for the scissors)...Back to the Friday vibe...it actually started last night...at 5:30pm yesterday, my brother-in-law and I headed out to pick up some friends to go to the NC State football game...We were picking up my buddy Eric (who is the very first person I met when I moved here) and his friends from New York who just moved here last month (a really cool couple I might add).

I'll skip all of the pre-game stuff, because all we really did was go to the bar and have a couple of beers before game time! But when we got into the stadium the Friday vibe started early...Here's the thing...It was Thursday Night Football on ESPN, the place is sold out, the weather is 80 degrees, the sun is down, and there is about a 15 mph breeze blowing through the stadium keeping everything the perfect temperature. Now, I've been to plenty of sporting events in my day, but for some reason last night was special and I'm not real sure why. There was just that feeling that I was exactly where I was supposed to be at the exact time I was supposed to be there and it got me thinking of everybody who reads this blog. I really wish I could have bottled up the energy in the stadium yesterday and given some to everybody because it was that good.

So after an awesome night, here's what I was thinking today as I was getting ready to write this...As a lot of you know, my idea behind this blog was to see if I could change my rotten attitude about work and life in general by writing about it each day...I was going through a "funk" and needed to get out of it, not only for my own sake, but for my family's as well...I didn't really have a plan or know how to go about it, I just kind of started typing and if I felt like telling a story, that's what I did...and if I felt like getting something off my chest...that's what I did... for those of you who know me really well, you know that this is way out of my comfort zone...So basically, whatever I felt like saying...I said it...So here is the coolest part about this blog...I don't even feel like I need to complain about anything anymore because by changing the way I've thought for the past two weeks (and all of you reading have a huge part to do with this) I have nothing left to complain about...I'm actually enjoying work now because I've gotten rid of whatever poison was in me and I look forward to writing this every day (it's really therapeutic)...I think I did my own exorcism...and I didn't even stab myself in the crotch with a cross!

When I read the book "The Secret" (which I know sounds corny), I remember it saying that what you put out into the universe you get back ten fold (the law of attraction)...That may be the truest (is that a real word? truest?) statement ever said...you do get back what you put out...and you know where I notice that the most?...Facebook!

I know for a fact that any of us who are on Facebook have those friends on there that constantly update their status with the most depressing things in the world...How about the ones that say "Oh man today is gonna be so hard...I can't believe what's happening"...but then they don't say what's happening...I'm always tempted to click the "like" button because I know they just want everybody to ask "what's wrong?"...Don't get me wrong, I am all for somebody putting something like "Going through a tough time, please pray for me" or something to that effect, but don't fish for pity...I read one today and some of you may have seen it too since we may be mutual friends that said "Why does my brain suck" and I commented that "your brain sucks because you keep telling yourself that your brain sucks"...and that's true...I'm no psychiatrist...as a matter of fact, I could probably use one :), but I know one thing...Garbage In=Garbage Out...So here's my plan...I'm going to go on Facebook and delete all of my "friends" who continually put on negative status updates...Who needs them?...As of right now, I have 520 "friends" on Facebook...I'll let you know how many it is after I delete the "bad" ones...That should be an interesting experiment...If it's any of you...Sorry!

One of the best things about moving away from everything we ever knew was that we were able to start fresh and pick our friends much more carefully...I am by no means saying that I wouldn't LOVE to have some of our friends from Michigan here with us, but I have to say it would be the vast minority. The truth is, as we get older, a lot of the people we have associated with our whole lives wouldn't even be our friends if we had met them later in life ( I hope that comes out right, because it sounds a little harsh).

Side Thought: I was driving back from one of our listings in Raleigh today and remembered a story that one of the speakers at the "Get Motivated" seminar told us and I figured I would tell you guys and maybe you could try it. He was talking about how you react to things and how your reaction can totally change the outcome of a situation...He said when his daughter was real little and still in her car seat that one day she figured out how to un-buckle herself...So as they were driving down the freeway at 70 mph she did just that...He proceeded to yell at her and tell her that if she didn't get back in her seat she was going to be in big trouble...That didn't work...she was hell bent on staying out of the seat and was fighting him all the way...So he pulled over on the side of the road...threw the car in park and got out...as he walked around to the other side to open the back door...he stopped for a minute and said to himself "God, I'm gonna kill this little brat, what should I do?" and he said at that moment he had a thought to give her a hug...He wasn't real happy about the thought, because he wanted to strangle her at this point, but he figured he would try it...So he opened the door and looked at her and she had this look in her eyes like she was ready to battle and he simply said "Honey, give Daddy a hug"...she started crying on the spot and gave him the biggest hug she had in her...she got back in her seat with no fight at all...Now, that could have turned out completely different, but he took the time in the heat of the moment to make a better decision about how to handle it...I have used that tactic with my son at least 5 times...I even did it this morning when he complained that I didn't put enough sugar in his oatmeal :)...it works every time! Not only with kids, but everybody...I'm not suggesting you hug every Tom, Dick and Harry (that would be a little strange)...but you get the idea

I hope everybody's Friday vibe can get you through the weekend and continue on forever!

See Ya'll...KC